Intimacy

February 19, 2017

Ephesians 5:21-31

There two important factors for intimacy to take place in marriage, mutual submission and perseverance. We can best express this idea in a formula….mutual submission / time = intimacy. Ephesians 5:21-31 is clear. Husband and wife are called to both submit to God. Wife is called to submit to her husband. Husband is called to submit to his wife. Any marriage that last longer than a week has some level of mutual submission. We are willing to do it on a short term basis, but to be willing to reach the level of intimacy in marriage that God designed you for you must be willing to go the distance. There are level of intimacy that you reach when at 20 years that you cannot imagine at 3 years of marriage. You need both mutual submission and time invested in order to reach intimacy.

What happens when you have time in marriage but an unwillingness to mutually submit to each other?

What happens when you have mutual submission but you do not have the time yet?

What happens when we submit to each other but not to Christ? What happens when we submit to Christ, but not to each other?

Why is it important to know that every marriage will go through seasons of close intimacy and painful distance?

How the story of the McQuilkin family speaks to you and your marriage?

How do you need to submit to your wife or husband this week? How do you need to submit to Christ this week?

Intimidad

19 de febrero del 2017

Efesios 5:21-31

Hay dos factores importantes para que la intimidad tenga lugar en el matrimonio, la sumisión mutua y la perseverancia. Podemos expresar mejor esta idea en una fórmula .... Sumisión mutua / tiempo = intimidad. Efesios 5: 21-31 es claro. El esposo y la esposa están llamados a someterse a Dios. La esposa es llamada a someterse a su marido. El esposo está llamado a someterse a su esposa. Cualquier matrimonio que dure más de una semana tiene algún nivel de sumisión mutua. Estamos dispuestos a hacerlo a corto plazo, pero para alcanzar el nivel de intimidad en el matrimonio que Dios diseñó para usted debe estar dispuesto a ir la distancia. Hay nivel de intimidad que se alcanza a los 20 años que no se puede imaginar a los 3 años de matrimonio. Usted necesita tanto la sumisión mutua y el tiempo invertido con el fin de alcanzar la intimidad.

¿Qué sucede cuando se tiene tiempo en el matrimonio, pero falta de voluntad para someterse mutuamente?

¿Qué sucede cuando tienes sumisión mutua pero aún no tienes tiempo?

¿Qué sucede cuando nos sometemos el uno al otro, pero no a Cristo? ¿Qué sucede cuando nos sometemos a Cristo, pero no entre nosotros?

¿Por qué es importante saber que cada matrimonio pasa por temporadas de íntima intimidad y dolorosa distancia?

¿Cómo le habla la historia de la familia McQuilkin a usted y a su matrimonio?

¿Cómo se debe someterse a su esposa o esposo esta semana? ¿Cómo necesitas someterte a Cristo esta semana?

Refining Power of Marriage

February 12, 2017

Romans 3:23-24, Proverbs 27:17

Have you ever bought a house in your life? It can be a very stressful process. Everyone wants to “close” right away. All of the sudden, everyone is in a hurry. The sellers want their money. Their realtor wants her money. Your realtor wants his money. They are all waiting on you. So often we do not look at all the details. It is after you buy the house that you start to notice little (and not so little) defects about the house that the inspection missed. A crack here and a dent over there; and all of the sudden this house does not look as good as it looked at first. No imperfection can stay hidden when you live in the house. Same is true for marriage. We all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. Yes, even her. Yes, even him.

How does the simple truth of Romans 3:22-23 – we all have sinned and fallen short – impacts a person that is waiting to get married until they find the perfect person?

If marriage is the union between one person who has fallen short and another person that has fallen short, that then decide to have children who has fallen short, why are we so surprise when we discover how difficult marriage can be?

What is one unique way that God wired your spouse that has helped to shape you into the person that God wants you to be? How about vice versa?

Do you see the challenges and struggles of your spouse as irritations and inconveniences in your life or as ways in which God is refining you?